Adults, bestfriends, troubles; help!

What are you meant to do when one of your best-friends is in pain?
When you know that there's something wrong but you cant get them to talk or you just don't know what to say to them to make them feel better.
You comfort them, hold them in your arms and tell them that everything will be okay but deep down you know its not; you tell them a white lie!
Don't parents tell you not to lie?
But in this one case isn't it okay?

I have a friend who is going through hell just like me and her friend is going through the same, when we're all in the same boat it makes it easier to understand but when they tell you that its okay you already know it wont be, so you just feel worse. I mean yeah, we aren't out in the 'big bad world' but is it really different from anything else in the world? I mean take abuse for example, I have a pretty good idea that abuse to adults feels the same as it does to a child or a teenager; so whats different? Nothing!
Adults treat us all like kids when maybe we have had more experience than they have had in their long, old boring lives! One of my close friends was abused when she was really young and I know many kids who have been, maybe we weren't abused the same way but it still leaves long lasting effects!

Adults think we wont remember anything but I remember stages in my childhood that Id much rather forget; such as, my parents divorce, my parents 'reconnection' with another person, my teachers suicide; everything that I don't want to be there is stuck, implanted as a memory in my head; a nightmare that maybe I want to end and maybe I don't!

Have you ever felt the same way?

Like maybe what Adults think is wrong?

Or just because they are older doesn't particularly make them more wise or more experienced than us teens... Or kids!

Tell me what you think?

x`BoodleWoodle

Fit In Or Stand Out ?

Have you ever felt like you stood out from the crowd instead of fit into it?
Well, I’m sure like me you have! It seems that in every class at school there are different groups; different crowds. Whether they are stereotypical crowds or just critical groups that won’t let you in! For example: the group of sluts or wanna-be sluts, the ‘popular’ crowd, the gangster crowd, the rebellious crowd, arsonist crowd, etc. And then there’s you and your one or two mates who don’t fit into that crowd at all! Do you make your own crowd or get bullied because you’re ‘different’?
Getting bullied is another completely different topic all together but while we’re on the subject; DONT put up with it! And yes, I know you may be thinking ‘Oh god not another bullying speech’ but it’s not a speech and many kids still don’t stand up for themselves. No one deserves to be bullied! NO ONE! So if you are, remember to get help from a parent ‘or other adult’ (:
Another issue that I find with this topic is trying to find who you are or looking at how you view yourself. Of course everyone has their moments of looking in the mirror and not liking what they see, but that’s only if you have insecurities; for those people who have large ego’s and can’t fit through the door, they won’t have a problem with this but I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who looks in the mirror some days and wonders why it doesn’t break or crack at least. But, what does it really take to make you feel good about yourself? Is it compliments or self confidence? Finding out who you are can be tough; I know adults who still haven’t figured out who they are or where their place in life is. Being a teenager of course I have no clue where I want to go, I have an idea and a dream but how much does it take to turn that into reality and can some actually know the difference?
Sometimes when people make bad decisions or don’t realise that they are dreaming too big for what they can achieve it makes me feel guilty because I can’t tell them or rather her that she can’t achieve what she wants with her budget. I keep hoping that she will get the idea of reality and come to terms with it but everyday it seems she is more engrossed in this fantasy world of hers. And I am beginning to think that she won’t ever get out of this, but also that I am the only one who is experiencing this, am I? Is there anyone out there with the same problem or same fears for a loved one? Any advice for me?!(Sorry I went completely off topic at some points, just thought I had to say something.)

Useless!

What happens to a girl?
What happens when she is unwanted, unloved?
What happens to a girl?
What happens when she is called names, bullied?
What happens to a girl?
What happens when she is abused? Physically, mentally?!
What happens to a girl when she puts a gun to her head, puts a razor to her heart, a rope around her neck?
What happens to the girl?
She pulls the trigger, cuts through her skin, jumps from the chair and leaves a note behind saying "I couldn't do it anymore... I’m a girl who forgot what happened to us! I’m a girl who forgot what happened to me!"
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How does it feel to know that once that person has made a decision; they won’t change their mind? Once they’ve planned their escape; you can’t stop them? A decision you know that they will regret, but also a decision that you can’t change? Each year many children, teenagers, adults and elderly die from suicide; many years hospitals are visited from people who have self inflicted wounds! When will this disaster stop?
Statistics show:
*Suicide is the eleventh leading cause of death for all Americans.
*Suicide is the third leading cause of death for young people aged 15-24 year olds.(1st = accidents, 2nd = homicide)
*Suicide is the fifth leading cause of death for young people aged 5-14 year olds.
*Suicide is the eighth leading cause of death for males.
*Suicide is the nineteenth leading cause of death for females.
*More males die from suicide than females.(Four male deaths by suicide for each female death by suicide!)
But, it’s not only suicide is it? It is the simple fact of the marks on the wrist; the attempt to end a life that you know shouldn't end! I am ninety-nine percent sure that I am not the only one trying to face facts that one of my best friends may end their life because they think there is no reason worth living it! The fact is, they put on smiles so that they can get through the day before they end up going home to an abusive family; verbally, mentally, physically! Or all of the above! Just a few days ago; I was given a diary to read. Filled with many suicidal thoughts; considering leaving forever yet that one person in her life was the only thing on this planet keeping her here; or the only person keeping him here was that special someone. It’s recorded that he had been handed a knife by one of his parents. He is only young, a teenager and he is influenced by the little push over the edge. Tell me something; could you do it? If one of your parents had handed you a knife, what would you think to do? Would you feel loved of unwanted? Would you feel like you were a mistake? Not that long ago, like many, I went through a stage of depression which caused me to think suicidal thoughts and slit my wrists. (Occasionally now I still relapse back into it but not that often). At one point the thing that turned me around was something my mother told me; she said “If you really dislike your life that much then do it! Just go ahead...” Sure it made me feel like maybe I should, but it also told me that I needed to rethink my life. Instead of being so negative about everything and about what I didn’t have, maybe for once in my life I should think about the positives; about everything I did have! Although it took a while to get out of the addiction of the slitting; I actually released the darkness that surrounded my soul. I relaxed and thought “Maybe this life isn’t so bad; sure in the past I have had heaps of downs, but now things are stable. What’s so wrong with life?” To myself I am a success story; but too many others out there, they are looking for their own turning point! So when you next ask someone if they are fine and they say they are fine but you can tell in their eyes they aren’t; make sure you don’t just walk off! Make sure you make them talk, listen to them and give them all the advice you can! Now that...That may just help them the little bit more they need to pull through!

- Thanks to:
http://www.suicide.org/suicide-statistics.html#2005